Hello Lovelies! Welcome to the Life Lessons on a Sunday podcast – Episode 7. I’m your host Jaimeson and I am so thrilled that you are here today! Today we are discussing everything there is to know about love letters, how to write them, some things you might want to include, who you should write them to, and hear some amazing love letters from the past to give you some inspiration. Who’s ready? I know I am …
Raise your hand if you are in love … Did you raise it? I know I did! I’m in love with my sweet husband, my precious kiddos, my amazing parents … and the list could go on.
To get us started off on the right track, let’s start with a love letter. Now this one is from George H.W. Bush, to his then fiancé Barbara during World War II. Dated December 12, 1943…
My darling Bar,
This should be a very easy letter to write — words should come easily and in short it should be simple for me to tell you how desperately happy I was to open the paper and see the announcement of our engagement, but somehow I can’t possibly say all in a letter I should like to.
I love you, precious, with all my heart and to know that you love me means my life. How often I have thought about the immeasurable joy that will be ours some day. How lucky our children will be to have a mother like you —
As the days go by the time of our departure draws nearer. For a long time I had anxiously looked forward to the day when we would go aboard and set to sea. It seemed that obtaining that goal would be all I could desire for some time, but, Bar, you have changed all that. I cannot say that I do not want to go — for that would be a lie. We have been working for a long time with a single purpose in mind, to be so equipped that we could meet and defeat our enemy. I do want to go because it is my part, but now leaving presents itself not as an adventure but as a job which I hope will be over before long. Even now, with a good while between us and the sea, I am thinking of getting back. This may sound melodramatic, but if it does it is only my inadequacy to say what I mean. Bar, you have made my life full of everything I could ever dream of — my complete happiness should be a token of my love for you.
Goodnite, my beautiful. Every time I say beautiful you about kill me, but you’ll have to accept it —
All my love darling —
Ugh, how romantic. I love how he uses “darling”. I love how he speaks to their future life and children together. I love how he mentions that the purpose of his has now changed. I just love this letter.
I want us to think of our letters as a time capsule. A moment in our life captured on paper with your current emotions and feelings written in ink to stand the test of time. To be read over and over again by your loved one for years to come giving them “that loving feeling” and being grateful for you to take the time and share with them.
Love letters don’t have to be just on Valentine’s day either, and I personally think they mean more when they just happen because your feelings moved you to write them as one form of your expression of love. But … if Valentine’s Day is the only time you buy a card or write a letter, then let’s make sure it is a doozy! You will definitely want to hit it out of the park.
Keep these little tidbits in mind when writing … love letters don’t have to be long, they can be short and sweet or lengthy and lovingly.
They can be a poem,
- include inside jokes,
- be passionate,
- be dreamy and romantic
- they can be funny and flirtatious
- THEY just need to be YOU!
What makes a GREAT love letter is the ability to share your true, raw, emotions – not just what you think the other person wants to hear. Let’s write more than “I Love You” let’s tell them WHY we love them. How do they make you feel? How do they show you love? How have they changed your life for the better? How do they react when you show them love? All of these little nuances that are just between the two of you … that’s the good stuff! That is what will make the heart pitter-patter and bring a spark to their eyes.
Here’s an example of an “anonymous” love letter ….
Happy Valentine’s Day! I decided not getting you a traditional card as this year is extra special and honestly, I’m not sure there is a card for what we’ve been through, but I’m sure they use better words than me.
Today, I just want to share with you the love I have for you. You are my one true love, my best friend, my everything. I trust you completely! I respect your choices. I love watching you be a father. Your thoughtfulness always leaves a smile on my face. Your loyalty to me and our children overwhelms my heart!
I love you with all of my heart. I will continue to be by your side for all of my life.
My deepest love,
Shew, if that doesn’t tug at your heart strings. Can you just feel the connection they must have? Truly touching.
Okay, are you ready for the actual writing of the letter tips and tricks now? Here we go …
- Have a good opening. Something more than just their name … Maybe … My Dearest, My love, Babe, Darling, nickname, whatever brings a smile to your face when you say it about them.
- Try to have it be a minimum of three sentences so there is at least a beginning, middle and an end … Come on, if we are in love, and even if we aren’t the best writer, we can at least think of three sentences.
- Maybe share a thought or feeling that you’ve never shared before. This can be kind of fun because it brings another layer to the relationship. It’s also the perfect time to open up and “just say it” … you will never regret sharing your true feelings.
- You can tell the story of the moment you knew you were in love. Oh, I remember mine like it was yesterday … although it was over 15 years ago – oh my goodness – 15 years … have I really been married for almost years? Shew, I digress.
- So, if you’ve been in your relationship a long time, Share your feelings on how your love has grown over the years and what you enjoy about the love you have now.
- If you have just recently fallen in love, maybe share a glimpse into your hope and dreams for the future.
- To end your letter, again, get a little fancy with the closing salutation … This is a love letter for goodness sake … Maybe … Truly Yours, Your beloved, Loving you always, or simply I love you.
- Remember, always be honest
- And lastly, always reread .. it’s okay to do a draft, reread and rewrite as many times as it takes. There’s no shame in not writing exactly what you want to say and how you want to say it on the first time. That is part of the beauty of the letter, versus saying the words … You can make sure they are exactly what you want to say and you don’t leave anything out.
Now to send the letter … Signed, sealed and delivered with a kiss! Either in person, hand delivered by courier or regular mail just waiting in their mailbox as a surprise … no matter how it arrives, I would encourage you to put a little thought into how it looks …
a colored envelope, a little doodle on the outside, for you ladies, maybe put on some lipstick and literally seal it with a kiss, use a pretty stamp, and maybe even spray a little perfume or cologne on the envelope so it does work on their other senses as well.
Oh, this is going to be so much fun!
For more inspiration, here is a love letter from Johnny Cash to wife June Carter Cash for her 65th birthday in 1994 …
Happy Birthday Princess,
We get old and get use to each other. We think alike. We read each others minds. We know what the other wants without asking. Sometimes we irritate each other a little bit. Maybe sometimes take each other for granted.
But once in awhile, like today, I meditate on it and realize how lucky I am to share my life with the greatest woman I ever met. You still fascinate and inspire me. You influence me for the better. You’re the object of my desire, the #1 Earthly reason for my existence. I love you very much.
What a birthday gift in itself this love letter is. This would be all I needed … truth, sincerity, realization. Happy Birthday to me!
I have “boxes” full of love letters – one is just of birthday cards … one is just of letters and cards that my husband and I write to each other … I also have a “journal/notebook” that I pull out every Mother’s Day and all I ask for on Mother’s Day is a thoughtful, meaningful letter … it can be about anything they want to write, but this journal has brought me so much joy!
I like to pull the letters and cards out every so often. Especially when I miss someone close to me, I pull out their letters specifically and read them. It brings me a “homey” and loved feeling that I need at that time. But it also reminds me of the special bond that we have for each other.
Okay, now, if you enjoy writing love letters or this has helped you get inspired to write, I encourage you to check out a company called “More Love Letters” … and you can find them at www.moreloveletters.com.
Just to give you a little background, this company was founded by a lady named Hannah Brencher when she was living in New York. She was young, working and living in communities where she felt hopeless and she, herself, felt lonely in the very big, busy and full of people city. One day on the 4 train, she saw a woman that looked even lonelier than her – so she decided to write her a love letter! Oh my goodness, this story is so good and I want to tell you the whole thing, but then I would spoil the fun of watching her tell you the story via her website.
BUT … every month moreloveletters.com shares stories of people who need to receive kind words and love. Simply click on “The Letter Request” tab and you will be introduced to new lovelies every month!
Okay, who is excited? Who’s excited to write their own love letters to those they personally love and who’s excited to share the love with strangers? Me too! And to make this more exciting and more lovely, let’s all connect and share our love by using the hashtag LOVE LETTERS FOR A LIFETIME … (#lovelettersforalifetime)
I’ll start … Head on over to Instagram @lifelessonsonasunday and you will see a few of my love letters.
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Before I go, I just want to encourage each and everyone of you to strive to take the time to write that love letter. It may take you 10 minutes, or it may take you 3 days – but it will leave an impact on your loved one that will last for a lifetime.
Until Next Sunday …